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Your spouse or partner (or best friend) goes to the doctor and is told to lose weight. And they do. You're pleased for them—on some small level that is—believing perhaps that weight loss is in their best interest. Maybe you’re concerned about how sedentary they've become or about their risk with climbing blood sugars or cholesterol levels. You know how sluggish they’ve been and surely you’d care to see them feel better both physically and mentally. But mostly you're not so pleased. Sound familiar? Whether you're recovering from an eating disorder or trying to break from the diet mentality and release yourself from diet rules it has "triggering" written all over. To quote my dear friend in recovery from an eating disorder "why is that he's allowed to diet and I can't?" "Why must I be the one in the family who models appropriate eating behaviors, while he restricts his grains and sucks down liquid supplements?" It's simply not fa...

Recovery is a tricky thing. You may be making progress with your eating—whether you are working to overcome binge eating, anorexia or bulimia—but may be fooled into believing that you’ve truly normalized  your relationship with food. It may feel like you’ve largely recovered; you’ve started to include ice cream (but only when you’re out, never keeping it in the house). And your binge frequency is close to zero. And surely you who’ve been restricting deserve credit for eating more than you used to—at least of the foods you deem good for you. But consider this: No, avoidance isn't the answer . Is it really recovery when the only way you feel in control is to fill your days with so much activity (no, not even physical activity) that you don't get to sit with your feelings? You work long hours waitressing, take on extra shifts or extend your work hours only to avoid being with yourself. You struggle to allow yourself to feel hungry—fearing you're not trustworthy to respond corr...

Rapid weight loss is incompatible with mental and physical health. Period. I beg to differ with Daily Beast columnist Tricia Romano , who believes Rachel Frederickson’s extreme weight loss on the Biggest Loser is none of our business. And I disagree that her weight is just a tad lower than a healthy BMI. And Rachel’s BL trainer Bob Harper is simply wrong when he assumes that “…when contestants leave home ... they are in charge of themselves.”  Admittedly, I’ve never watched more than a few minutes of TBL—I found it intolerable. Yet the show is unfortunately quite popular. Many of my plus size patients report being inspired, identifying with the desperate contestants, tolerant of the verbal abuse and crazy diet and activity demands. They're smitten by the fairy tale that rapid weight loss through extreme measures works. And that extreme weight loss equals extreme happiness. Let me inform you otherwise; I yearn to protect you from the damage, both visible and hidden, from this diet ...

Because you’re more than just dust and ashes. How long could you have stayed in bed with this look? I was lying in bed contemplating this long overdue post, when he started to whine. “ I’ll be up soon, go lie down ”, I barked to my canine. If he really needed to go out or to eat, I knew I’d hear from him again soon. And so he hunkered down, curling up comfortably in his bed. And I scored one in an attempt to get my needs met, namely more desperately needed sleep. Only my head was too filled with other things. There’s this post to write, for instance, and food shopping to do, household chores, and… So my need for sleep was bypassed. And what does this have to do with you? Get a little help from your friends. Most of you, it seems, struggle with meeting your needs or are dependent on others to realize your needs. But I don’t mean simply your nutrient needs. Regardless of your age, you need parenting of sorts. Or call it nurturing. And compassion. And validation. And if you n...